News flash: More and more women are jumping outside their marriages in search of no-strings-attached sex. All it takes to find a willing partner? An Internet connection and an account on a site like AshleyMadison.com. We sent writer and monogamist Teddy Wayne to meet the growing flock of lady Don Drapers:
Gloria is a slender, pretty woman in her late forties whom I meet on a Friday night at The Bar Downstairs at the Andaz hotel in midtown. She’s had two enjoyable long-term affairs with male colleagues. Recently, however, without any opportunities presenting themselves, she joined Ashley Madison. She wants to fall in love again but doesn’t feel the need to leave her husband—at least not yet.
"There are more reasons to stay than to leave. There’s still love that holds us together," she tells me over cocktails and tapas. "But I don’t believe any one person ever fulfills a person’s needs. And lifelong passion is extremely rare. If I left him and married someone else, it’d probably just be a matter of time until I had the same situation. It’s unusual for a strong sexual component to remain after a few years, and I’m not willing to give up that part of my life."
She says she’s been with “publishers of magazines, CEOs, politicians, managing partners at law or investment firms”—all via Ashley Madison.
"Politicians?" I exclaim, astonished anyone in elected office would be so brazen in the aftermath of Anthony Weiner. "Can I ask what level of government?"
"I won’t say any more," she laughs. "I like him and don’t want to get him in trouble."
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